Posts tagged attachment styles

Understanding Attachment

Dear Lori and Jeff,

My long term partner and I recently took an online quiz to begin assessing our attachment patterns. We’ve read numerous articles and have listened to podcasts about attachment styles and were hoping that knowing our patterns would help improve our relationship. I lean more anxious and he’s higher on avoidant. It feels in some ways we’ve become more frustrated with each other and ourselves because, even though we’ve identified this, we don’t know what to do with it. We keep having the same conflict patterns and maybe were overly optimistic that knowing about our attachment styles would have resolved some of our issues. What can we do to actually create some change?

Signed, Attachment Newbie

AttachmentLori KretOctober 20, 2023Aspen Relationship Instituteattachment styles, protective patterns

Tools to create a better marriage in 2023

Dear Readers,

The new year begins a surge of energy for fresh beginnings, redefining oneself, and closing chapters that no longer serve us. And in this light, it may not be surprising that for the last several years, January has been dubbed divorce month. Some couples considering ending their relationship choose to push through one last holiday season “for the family.” Others decide they just can’t go through one more year of being unhappy with their partners.