How to manage different sexual styles between partners

Dear Lori and Jeff,

My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years and although we don’t really have any specific problems with our relationship, we do seem to be diverging on what we want in the bedroom. We started out like most new couples, always wanting to be together and having trouble keeping our hands off each other. As time went on, I was hoping to have a deeper, more emotional sexual connection, but he seems to want the opposite—a much more rowdy and physical act. I’m not saying I don’t occasionally enjoy that, but I’d also like our intimacy to include a bit more feeling and tenderness. Is that too much to ask for?

Signed, Wanting More

Dating, Sex and IntimacyLori KretFebruary 11, 2020Aspen Relationship Instituterelationship counseling, relationship coaching, relationship advice, couples counseling, sexual styles, tones of sex, partner wants different things in bedroom, manage sexual differences in relaitonship, how to have better sex, how to talk about sex, want different sexualComment

How Can I Create a More Fulfilling Sex Life With My Partner?

Dear Jeff and Lori

My wife and I have been together for six years. I was open with her from the beginning about my high sex drive and specific interests, and was hoping over time she would come around and open up more sexually. When we have sex, it’s good and she has, from time to time, been open to trying new things. But it’s still not really what I want it to be. I’m starting to realize it bothers me more than I thought it would. I love her and don’t want to mess up the marriage by saying the wrong thing, but she’s noticing that something’s up. What should I do?

Signed, Wanting More