I think my husband needs to talk to someone

Dear Jeff and Lori,

My husband has been through several stressors in the last year and as a result has become irritable and mildly depressed. While our marriage is still relatively positive, he complains to me about something in the world almost every day. I was happy to support him in the beginning, but I’m feeling emotionally worn out. I believe he may be going through an identity or mid-life crisis. When I try to make suggestions about what might help him feel better, he won’t listen to me. How can I get him to see a therapist who might be able to get through to him?

Signed, Married to Moody Man

Counseling/ CoachingLori KretSeptember 20, 2023Aspen Relationship Institutemen and therapy, men and depression, setting boundaries

Husband's Depression Impacting Relationship

Dear Lori and Jeff,

I think my husband is depressed and don’t know how to help. He says he’s fine, yet some days he has trouble getting things going in the morning choosing to stay in his pajamas or just wear sweats and not shower or shave. Other times he is irritable and snaps at me for things that don’t seem like they should be a big deal. He’s always had a difficult relationship with his mother and his dad passed away about a year ago and I don’t think he’s ever really dealt with it. His mood is significantly affecting our marriage and I walk around on eggshells. When I’ve suggested he get help, he becomes defensive. What should I do?

Signed, On Eggshells

Emotional IntimacyLori KretMay 12, 2023Aspen Relationship Institutemen and depression, depressed men in relationships